Refuse to acknowledge…

February 9, 2017

Elizabeth Warren was told to be quiet. Women often are.

Boys are told not to ask questions and not to cry. Only women do that.

Sexism… Against women and, yes, against men, too.

Conscious and unconscious bias. Racism. Sexism. Homophobia. Bathroom laws. And on and on. Alive and well. And thriving now.

But we continue to deny. We continue to ignore research. We continue – as a society, as communities, as governments, as president – to acknowledge our own unearned privilege. We continue to deny all our “isms.”

“She was warned. She was given an explanation. Nevertheless, she persisted.” Senator Elizabeth Warren was certainly not the first – nor will she be the last.

An endless list of those fighting for basic human rights. Endless – both so sad (not enough progress) and so great (continuing to fight). Martin Luther King, Jr. Mahatma Gandhi. Black Lives Matter. Gloria Steinem. William Wilberforce. Hillary Clinton. Malala Yousafzai. Betty Friedan. Shirley Chisolm. Jessie de la Cruz. Just a few that I think of.

Feminism is not a female thing. Feminism is an equity thing. Civil rights isn’t a people of color thing. Civil rights is an equity thing. Same with homophobia and and and and and and…

I’m so tired and so sad and so angry and so disappointed. But not surprised, I guess.

Look in the mirror. Grab hold of your conscious mind. Fight to overcome your own unconscious bias. Make it conscious and fight it!

About Simone Joyaux

A consultant specializing in fund development, strategic planning, and board development, Simone P. Joyaux works with all types and sizes of nonprofits, speaks at conferences worldwide, and teaches in the graduate program for philanthropy at Saint Mary’s University, MN. Her books, Keep Your Donors and Strategic Fund Development, are standards in the field.

  • Patti Saunders

    I love your rants, Simone. They so often mirror my own thoughts and feelings, but more articulately than I can usually manage.

    I want to offer one bit of hope here: it seems to me that one of the things we may be seeing is a whole lot of nominally progressive people who have sat back and taken our progress for granted, as well as the idea that the progress would continue unabated into the future (albeit by fits and starts), have woken up out of their complacent stupor and realized that everything is at stake right now, including our souls if we just go quietly. I’m thrilled to see so many people in the streets and on the phone to their legislators (30,000 calls to AK Senator Murkowski about DeVos!!!). I’m thrilled to see so many people donating to good causes ($19 million to the ACLU in THREE DAYS to litigate the immigration/refugee order!). There’s a sea change in the air; I can smell it. We just have to keep it going, bank the coals so the flame stays lit for the long haul.

    patti

  • simonejoyaux

    Thank you, Patti. I appreciate your loving of my rants. And right now – in this morass of awfulness – I appreciate your bit of hope. People getting up and speaking out. People in the streets rather than just on the internet (that thing called slacktivism). The outpouring of financial support to places like the ACLU and Planned Parenthood and…

    YES: BANK THE COALS SO THE FLAME STAYS LIT FOR THE LONG HAUL. Yes. yes.

  • Jude Goldman

    Thanks for echoing Michael Jackson – we all must start with the woman or man in the mirror. Never easy, always necessary.

  • simonejoyaux

    Didn’t know I’d echoed Michael J. I first “recognized” that issue back in the early 1970s. Ah the fight. Thanks for commenting, Jude. Keep up your good work.

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